November 7, 2007

  • Interracial relationships

    *I didn't write this article*

    Relationships between white men and an Asian women seem to be not only quite common but also accepted far more than the other interracial relationships.  I’ve noticed most Asian women with white men at my undergraduate school, graduate school, and law school as well as the legal community and in my neighborhood.

    Many of my Asian women friends and colleagues have told me that they don’t have a preference as to what race they date but that it’s usually white men who ask them out. [This has been my experience as well].

    On the other hand, I know quite a few white men who prefer to date only Asian women. Their reasons are always the same. They prefer the Asian looks: straight black hair, slender builds, almond-shaped eyes, and smooth golden skin. They like the culture, the art, and the traditions of Asia. And they say that they find Asian women to be more feminine. Many of my Asian friends and colleagues [jokingly] say that these men have an “Asian fetish” or “yellow fever.”

    Recently, I had a couple of conversations on the topic of white men who prefer to date only Asian women. So I looked online for articles and comments concerning this topic. Many of the articles on this topic were somewhat offensive, and many of them just confirmed my belief that certainly there are many men out there with “yellow fever,” whether they want to admit it or not (see, for example: Why White Men Prefer Asian Women and White Boy Speaks on Dating Asian Women.

    I then came across an article, Tiny, Flat-Chested and Hairless: A White Man Extols the Wonders of Asian Women. However, like many people who wrote letters to the editor (see Letters), I found this article also to be quite offensive because she implied that men who prefer to date Asian women must be pedophiles. One of the first things that came to my mind when I read this article was that this author (a white woman) must not like Asian women very much (or white men who date Asian women, for that matter), since she exhibited a better-than-thou attitude.

    So I got curious about the relations between Asian women and Non-Asian women. And wouldn’t you know it? There was an article exactly on point: Relations Between Asian and Non-Asian Women. The article points out that some white women have negative impressions of Asian women because they see Asian women either as sexual threats (the exotic temptresses/sexual predators stereotype), or objects of pity and condescension (the passive victims of sexist cultures stereotype), or as superhuman competitors for grades and promotions (the grinds-with-no-lives stereotype).

    Yes, I know I’ve digressed. But what the heck? They’re just my random thoughts on Asian women, white men, non-Asian women, yellow fever, Asian fetish, and everything in between.

Comments (6)

  • hmmm...  intriguing.  I've always seen it as a preference thing...

  • There are some people we get along with better than others. I find I get along with asians, male or female, better than I get along with other people from around our world.

  • I think it's gross to hear men liking women just because of physical features. It makes me not feel well.

  • Just saying you like women with blonde hair because their hair is blonde is kind of gross. However, saying that you like women with blonde hair because they have interesting personalities is fine. You should like their physical features because of what's inside of them.

    For me how the person really is determines whether they're good looking or not. If I don't see anything good inside them there will be little physical attraction.

  • when you pick up sociology let me know. I will buy your book an publicize your talks. Lol.

    Actually, contrary to my past belief, I thought women who became pregnant immediately stopped working. That's only true if your estrogen levels are so out of whack that you can barely move much less breathe with any odour you encounter. OR...if you're expecting twins. Most women just keep working until a week before they're due. After the first three months of really bad nausea, the thing you deal with most is constant peeing and fatigue. =b So, I'm working, and yes, I'm enjoying my HR job! =)

    I"ve never learned so much about the world and its social structures (but not in the way you're interested in them..I'm talking more about labour structures..and how companies are organized) before until this job! It's eye opening! SEriously, being a teacher, you only know as much as your students' textbooks (unless you're super interested in non-fiction novels and following CNN like a fruit fly on a garbage pile.) Well, I dont' know if knowledge becomes THAT limited as a teacher, but if you're teaching elemntary pretty much teh only thing you want to learn is "how to discipline little kids that are bad" and "teaching young 'uns socially-accepted behaviour and niceties."

    How are you liking your job?

  • aside from the article, I must say, "WOW" you are super smart! Law school.

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