April 15, 2010

  • Women Empowerment - Stage I

    Alice in Wonderland

    The red queen asked, "Would I rather be feared, or be loved?".  I personally know people who would rather be feared.  I think they either have self-esteem issues, very bitter, or they are insecure control freaks.  For me, love please.  With a certain amount of love, it comes fear of hurting or losing you.  With any amount of fear, does not come love.

    Would u rather be loved, or respect?  There is respecting them as a person (which can be reminded and forced because the society requires us to do so), and there is voluntary respect, which you genuinely respect the person.  Parents can love kids without voluntary respecting them.  For many, it is difficult to love without both basic and voluntary respect.  Relationships with love but without respect are owner-pet (or doll), or parent-children (both ways) relationships.  Love does not automatically come out of respect, but respect is almost essential to have for one to love.  Respect, however, must be created by the quality, character, presentation of the person and the milestones he has set, and does not necessarily involve love.  One cannot assume that they co-exist at all times, but it is certainly nice to have both. (but then again, who said one needs respect to be influential?*)

    *Political heroines Vs. AV Girl 

    Political heroines such as Joan of Arc, 秋瑾 (Qiu Jin), Laura Secord etc. could not command the same level of motivation and services of men as an AV girl did.   秋瑾 wore men clothes, courageous, educated, intelligent, spoke japanese, had her own publication, led the revolution party, did what women wouldn't dare to think of.  Before 秋瑾 died, she said that for a revolution to be successful, blood has to be shed.  This AV girl just have to show some flesh, and hackers took one day to break the chinese firewall to watch porn.  We all know how strong the Chinese firewall is.  Taiwan Independence, tiananmen square etc. sites, no hacker ever broke the firewall.  秋瑾 should have understood her people.  To have the power to reunite people to revolt, you need to be an AV girl.  Who said one needs respect to be influential?  Before empowering women, please fix this problem of men. 

    Mothers

    Article of women complaining about being a working mother and being a stay-at-home mother.  Working women has to work AND do housework at home.  Stay-at-home mother has limited family funds and has to take care of children, which is not a 9-5 job.  Also, mothers earn 11,000USD less than single women.  All these issues can be solved by hiring a housekeeper for hundreds/thousands to take care of your housework and your kids' basic needs.  Professional women should really outsource to enjoy their careers and lives.  Other solutions include not having children, moving to countries with cheaper labour, choosing a husband who has compassion - who will do the housework / earn enough to support a lifestyle with kids before having them so that you don't need to suffer.  You don't need a husband to feed you, nor children to farm nor take care of you in your old age nor bear your husband's name nor to continue his legend / bloodline.    Everything is a matter of want and lifechoices.  You had and have lots of choices, so no point complaining so much and seek change instead.