April 12, 2010

  • More random thoughts

    Mimetic Desire

    We borrow our desires from others (we called these people 'model'). Far from being autonomous, our desire for a certain object is always provoked by the desire of another person  for this same object. This means that the relationship between the subject and the object is not direct: there is always a triangular relationship of subject, model, and object. Through the object, one is drawn to the model, whom Girard calls the mediator: it is in fact the model who is sought. René Girard calls desire "metaphysical" in the measure that, as soon as a desire is something more than a simple need or appetite, "all desire is a desire to be"

    What you have becomes your neighbour's desire. The more wants are satisfied, the more wants are born.  But the idea of mimetic desire is psychologically searching of the human condition in highlighting an inner self-discontent from which the ego seeks to escape through acquiring objects that symbolise a more idealised state of the ego that is distinct from the true persona. Whilst mimetic desire can be construed positively, for example in seeking to emulate the character qualities of another and not the persona of another, mimetic desire is more usually associated with less admirable mimetic desires that perpetuate a cycle of discontent and a gnawing undermining of self-worth.  This can be seen everywhere (but more prevalent in places like Asia, big cities..) - LV bags, nice cars, luxury houses in a recognized area, fame, spouse.  I'm not against it, just raising awareness here. 

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    Two similar peas in a pod.   Thinkers are more capricious and unstable, and therefore they need a stable, simpler person to stabilize things and to support each other in life.  They don't want another complex person to pick on his/her thoughts.  Two worry worts, two practicals, two extroverts, two survivors, two fishhead eaters, for example, do not guarantee compatibility.

    When I got home from my long vacation, I saw that one of my three cactus has 'finally' turned yellow.  I was actually happy that it has finally died.  Why?  Did I not plant them, gave them soil, and laid little rocks on the soil 3 years ago?  Did I not water them sporadically?  Why have I wondered every time I water these plants whether they are dead?  My thoughts really scared me.  Why do the cactus get worse treatment than the ivy and others when the others in fact need more maintenance?  Is it because cactuses don't change, has no indication of life and requires such low maintenance?  Did I just want to see them change and if not, they might as well die?  Can you imagine this on human?  Die die die!!  I am bored of you!  It does tell me that perhaps couples can't always be the same and leave each other then and there.  Couples need to be able to revive relationships, improve on themselves in order to continuously impress each other once in a while.  Do you agree?  I treated it so bad, and it still enlightened me.. 

    什么是细水长流的爱情？

    天长地久的爱情是在你心中，只要你真心的付出，执着的追求，勇敢的牺牲，天长地久的爱情就是你的爱情。如果你爱对方，那么你会因为对方快乐而快乐，因为对方幸福而幸福。无论是婚前的热恋中,还是婚后的平淡生活中，只要你是真的爱对方，只要你为了你们的幸福生活而努力付出，那么天长地久的爱情就在你的身边。
    不是你拥有了天长地久的爱情，而是你创造了天长地久的爱情。
    相信自己~只要有爱，幸福就一定会存在~